I know what you’re feeling right now. You’re tired of being rejected. You’re tired of not being enough. You’re tired of being cheated on. You’re tired of being dumped because “your man” left you for another girl. You’re tired of being disappointed by countless boys who can’t treat you in the way that you deserve.
I truly know. I’ve been in your shoes several times. It sucks. It honestly sucks to trust someone and give your heart to someone who can’t treat it with pure intentions. But that’s the point… we need to stop giving boys opportunities to break our heart because we are waiting for a real man to step up to the plate. Don’t be afraid to raise your standards. It’s okay to have high and realistic standards. You know that you don’t deserve to experience another heart break so raise your standards, not walls around your heart. You can’t expect a real and genuine love to enter the scene when you built brick walls with barbwire wrapped around your heart. Don’t be that girl. Know your worth and be open for God’s best because he may not appear in the way that you’ve been dreaming (perhaps, only better).
I want you to understand that you are enough. He may have treated you poorly but none of that defines who you are. The numerous rejections do not define your worth. A rejection is only a redirection that is leading you to the man that is well-suited for your heart. You may feel worthless because you’ve been dumped for another girl but you are anything but worthless. In fact, if a boy leaves you for another girl… good! You didn’t need him anyways! Kick him to the curb and don’t let him back into your heart. A real man that is meant for you… he will never think twice about being with another woman. He will be committed to you. I want you to know that there are real men out there who can commit to you (and only you).
Whatever you do, stop playing games with boys. Boys are boys. There is a reason that they aren’t considered men yet. Boys need time to grow and figure out what they want so whatever you do… don’t play games with someone who is still figuring out what they want in life. A real man will work for you but don’t play games with him either. A real man will pursue wholeheartedly and you won’t need to worry whether he is going to change his mind about you. A real man will know what he wants. He won’t take five years to figure out whether you’re the woman that he wants to spend his life with. He will know and you will see it through his actions. Don’t believe pretty words. Words mean nothing without action so always remember that.
Your heart may ache right now but it will heal. You will meet a real man who deserves your heart and will prove himself to you. In fact, you won’t need to ask him to prove himself because he will be determined to say that, “You are worth pursuing.” Don’t give up on love altogether. Don’t build a brick wall with barbwire around your heart. Don’t become bitter because of your past relationships or almost lovers. The reason that they didn’t work out is because they couldn’t handle the journey that you’re on. God knew that. He knew all along which is why He is redirecting you onto a path that will lead you to your future husband.
Sweetheart, you will be okay. I promise.
You are truly loved and cherished – if not by a man, you are loved by an almighty God who says that you are so valuable and worth pursuing. Don’t give up on love just yet. Keep moving forward and don’t look back. Remain focused on yourself and Jesus Christ. In the right timing, you will find yourself walking down the aisle to a man that you never imagined because God’s dream is too good for our own imagination. You will find yourself saying, “I do,” and continue your life with him. You will no longer remember about the boys who broke your heart because you finally met the one that God intended all along.
There is light at the end of the tunnel, dear one… this isn’t the end of your love story.