I want you to know that you are so loved, cherished, wanted, desirable, amazing, precious and valuable. I want you to know how brave you are as someone who is single and waiting whether by choice or not.
Maybe you have always been single. Maybe you have felt that no one is interested in you or never have been asked out on a date. Maybe you like someone but they are not giving you any sign of attention or affection, let alone their time of day. Maybe they are wish washy and constantly tug on your heart by playing unnecessary games. Maybe you are dating someone but relationship is not leading towards your hopes of marriage and is blinded by confusion. Maybe you got out of an abusive relationship. Maybe you got out of a long-term and serious relationship. Maybe the love of your life… the one that you felt that you would marry… broke your heart.
I want you to know that I get it.
I’ve been there so many times.
I know the pain that you feel but I promise, you don’t see it now but you will be thankful for the “waiting season” (the dreadful singleness as I would call it when I am impatient with God’s timing).
I used to believe that singleness is a punishment because I desire marriage “too much.” I have always felt that I am missing out as I watched my friends enter long-term relationships and engagements. I definitely felt more left out as I have entered my mid-twenties and watched several friends get married and begin having babies. Honestly, during this season… I struggled believing that God was withholding me from relationships because I was not perfect enough YET. This was a lie and I want you to know the truth.
“Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change.”
You, my darling, are a gift. You are worth so much (even if you do not see it right now). Your singleness is only a detour towards the direction that God is leading you.
I know that you wish that the man that you have your eyes on would join in on your adventure but sometimes, they cannot join the journey that God is you leading on because you would never have taken the first step towards God’s plans if you were to stay in same place that you are in right now. Some people are not meant to go along for every journey (I wish it was different, trust me). However, sometimes God will bring them back into your life down the road because you never know what He has planned for your future.
Don’t sit around being disappointed because you are not in a relationship or engaged to the love of your life. I have done this numerous of times. Don’t begin to feel sorry for yourself because you are not where you hoped to be. Don’t do that. Don’t do that to yourself because our almighty God is in control and He knows what you need, who you need, and when you need it. You have no idea when someone is going to walk into your life unannounced (someone new or someone from the past, who knows).
Maybe you don’t believe me and trust me, I understand because I don’t always believe it either. I am telling you that where you are right now is where you are suppose to be. Do not be discouraged!
“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”
Your time is coming. I don’t know what your future looks like but I know that God does not withhold what is good and meant for you.
“For still the vision awaits its appointed time; it hastens to the end – it will not lie. If it seems slow, wait for it; it will surely come; it will not delay.”
Take this time to focus on YOU. Be strong and courageous as a young single woman who is pursuing the Lord. Know your worth and don’t settle. Focus on who you need to be for someone else. Focus on being a Proverbs 31 woman and begin preparing to be a godly wife and mother for your future husband and children. Start preparing in your singleness because as many have told me… singleness does fly by fast and you never know what God has in store for your life tomorrow.
Don’t be discouraged right now because one day, you will wake up next to the love of your life and will be thankful that you met him the moment that God led him to you.
Darling, God will lead someone to you. If it is apart of God’s plan… trust me, it will happen when it is in His perfect timing. Keep your head up and do not be discouraged. You are not alone in your singleness. Your singleness is not the end of your story but only a chapter in this season.
“Wait for the Lord; be strong, and let your heart take courage; wait for the Lord!”