Embracing Good-Bye Graciously


Have you ever held onto something or someone that you know you need to let go? Have you experienced the pain of hoping that someone may change but it never does?

Leave the broken, irreversible past in God’s hands, and step out into the invincible future with Him. // Oswald Chambers

My heart goes to every woman who has held onto something that made their heart experience pain that was never meant for them. I understand what you are feeling – I truly do. I have held onto false hope, dreams, and memories that made me hope that the circumstances would change. I held onto many people and things that were never meant for me. Nothing hurts more than seeing an old flame moving on to their next boo thang. It’s like someone has punched you in the heart.  Then you experience the flashbacks of the promises that they may have made but never kept. It hurts! It hurts so much that you feel sick. It’s like you’re experiencing the break-up all over again. I wasted too much time grieving instead of celebrating the next hello.

But can I tell you something? There is joy and freedom in every good-bye.

You see… I held onto things that were not meant for me because I did not see what was up ahead. I did not see what God had been planning since the day I was conceived. I did not see that I deserved more than what I was settling for. I thought that what I had was the best I could have been given. I did not see that God had something greater than what I thought I deserved.

Truly, I say to you, whoever says to this mountain, ‘Be taken up and thrown into the sea,’ and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that what he says will come to pass, it will be done for him. // Mark 11:23

Maybe you’re experiencing a break-up or watching an old flame move on. Maybe you’re holding onto something that you should have let go of months or years ago. Maybe you’re holding onto someone that you think is God’s best but is only his second best.

There comes a day when you realize turning the page is the best feeling in the world – because you realize there’s so much more to the book than the page you were stuck on. // Zayn Malik

Whatever it is… cheer on the good-bye! Let go! Just like the song from Frozen… “Let it go, let it go, turn away and slam the door.” Stop holding onto something that is second best. You are worthy of God’s best. You are worth so much more! You are worth more than what you are settling for! Embrace the good-bye! Celebrate the pain and tears – and say hello to the joy and freedom of the next season. It is easier said than done (I know firsthand) but always remember that God does not take away without giving something better. Wait on His perfect timing – don’t settle or hold onto something that is not meant for you. Say good-bye and walk away because you are worthy to be loved unconditionally without hesitation.

And maybe a happy ending doesn’t include a guy, maybe it’s you, on your own, picking up the pieces and starting over, freeing yourself up for something better in the future. Maybe the happy ending is just moving on. // He’s Just Not That Into You

Dear Jesus,

Help me to embrace every good-bye. Help me to let go of what hinders my walk with you. Help me to see myself in your eyes – the valuable treasure that I am. Lord, teach me to remain patient and joyful as I wait for your ultimate best. Teach me how to embrace the pain so I can become a woman who does not hold onto the people of this world more than you. Lord, help me to let go and move on for your glory. I love you so much.




  • Autumn
    3 years ago

    You’re spot on about the need to let go. God has so many wonderful things in store for us, but sometimes we are too stubborn or scared to let go of the past and trust Him. It’s tough to do, but like you said, it’ll bring freedom and joy to our lives. Thanks so much for sharing!

  • Cassandra
    3 years ago

    This is such a beautiful and special post. Goodbyes are hard, but there is something so beautiful about the freedom of letting go.

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