I realized something in that moment… I realized that I want to be the same person that I am in the church and when I leave the church. I realized how I want to set an example of someone who dresses sexy but modest (because you can be sexy and still dress modest without revealing every curve on your body). I realized that some of my clothes should be retired because I am no longer between the ages of 16-18 who can get away with wearing certain clothing but probably shouldn’t be allowed. Personally, I want to set an example as someone in their mid-twenties who dresses modest but sexy in a pure and holy way.
As I started to realize these thoughts, I began to ask myself questions such as:
What does Jesus think about my outfit?
Would I let my 8th grade students wear something like this?
How would my dad feel if he saw my outfit today?
Would I want my future daughter to wear this?
Would I want my future son to date a girl who dresses like this?
How would my boyfriend or future husband feel about me wearing this right now?
Am I making a man stumble because of how tight this skirt looks on me?
““You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
“Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own,”
1 Corinthians 6:19
All these questions stirred inside of my heart as my best friend and I were wandering the city streets and ended up walking into a retail store. As soon as we walked in, I made eye contact with a beautiful A-line skirt. Honestly, I fell in love. As soon as I tried the skirt on, I felt peace. I felt beautiful, sexy and modest. The skirt wasn’t too short or too tight. The skirt didn’t define and expose my womanly curves either. It is exactly the kind of skirt that I would want my daughter to wear and let the man who is pursuing me to see me wear on a daily basis. I didn’t feel the need to cover myself which confirmed that I needed to update my wardrobe immediately.
Ladies, we need to be conscious about the clothes that we wear. We can look sexy and be modest without wearing clothes that are revealing, too short, or too tight. Let’s examine our hearts and the clothes we wear.
“Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”
I challenge you to go through your closet and throw away any article of clothing that isn’t pure and holy. This doesn’t mean that you should wear long-sleeve turtle necks and maxi skirts every day. There are several ways we can dress modest in a pure and holy way and still feel sexy. As you try on clothes, begin to ask yourself the same questions that I asked myself. Thoroughly examine the outfit or article of clothing and ask counsel from a leader or someone who is a godly example in your life. Ladies, you can be sexy in a modest way. Let’s think about these questions and set an example for other women.
“Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.”
1 Peter 3:1-4