Honestly, I hate feeling lonely. It makes me feel too many emotions that I cannot stand to feel. There are some days, I wake up and feel everything – sometimes, its like a punch in the stomach. Loneliness seems to creep in when Satan has me convinced that I am unloved, unworthy, and unwanted. It’s a painful lie and I know it – but sometimes I naively believe it.
God has been teaching me during my lonely days that He is always with me. He has been reminding me that he is in control when I am not. He has been showing me that nothing can fulfill the empty gap of my loneliness. He has been revealing my strengths and weaknesses through the test of loneliness.
If I have learned anything through my loneliness is that:
A man cannot fill the empty gap.
Money cannot fill the empty gap.
Fashion cannot fill the empty gap.
Friends cannot fill the empty gap.
A job cannot fill the empty gap.
All my wants and desires cannot fill the empty gap.
Only Jesus Christ can fulfill the empty gap.
Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” // Hebrews 13:5
Loneliness is good!
What!? Yeah, I said it and I will say it again…
Loneliness is good.
As much as I hate it; loneliness has been teaching me a lot about myself. It has taught me what I do in the midst of my loneliness. Loneliness has also taught me what I should do. And I am going to reveal a secret to embracing your lonely days… are you ready for it!?
When you are lonely, embrace that you need Jesus more than ever. Hold tight to his word. Believe in his promises. But most importantly – take this time to grow and cling to your relationship with the Lord.
When you are lonely, stop searching for everything on this earth that is going to make you feel some kind of emotion. Nothing is going to fill the void that is meant for something greater. Your loneliness wants you to believe that earthly things are going to make you happy. Loneliness can either be your greatest enemy or best friend – debating on how you handle it.
Loneliness is good because it is a reminder that you need someone who has been in love with you since the beginning of time. It is a reminder that you are focused on the wrong things. It is a heads up that something needs to change. Loneliness will come and go but it will always be a reminder that you are searching for something that only Jesus can fulfill. God wants a personal and deep relationship with YOU. He wants your full and devoted attention. God allows you to feel lonely because he wants you to cling to him more than anyone else. He is a jealous God and it makes sense! We as women and maybe men who are reading this – we become jealous when our significant other is paying attention to someone other than ourselves. We want all of their attention. We want to feel as if we are their one and only. God feels the same way. He wants our whole heart. He doesn’t want us to be half in. He wants to love you unconditionally. But he also wants your love and praise in return. Embrace your loneliness and allow yourself to grow a deeper relationship with God through it.
“Do not be afraid. I will save you. I have called you by name—you are mine. When you pass through deep waters, I will be with you; your troubles will not overwhelm you. When you pass through fire, you will not be burned; the hard trials that come will not hurt you. For I am the Lord, your God. … because you are precious to me and because I love you and give you honor, do not be afraid—I am with you!” // Isaiah 43:1-5
Ladies, remember that loneliness can either be your worst enemy or best friend. God wants your whole heart. Embrace your loneliness to grow a deeper relationship with him instead of searching for worldly fulfillment.
Help me to embrace my loneliness so I can grow closer to you in our relationship. Teach me to cling to you and seek you with all my heart. Help me to hold onto your promises and know that I am never alone. Thank you for my season of loneliness. Thank you for where you have me. I love you.