God has a funny way of changing your plans. I am sure many of my readers can relate when your plans and dreams did not happen the way that you hoped.
Guys, I am twenty-six years old and nowhere close to seeing a ring on my finger. My plan was to marry my first boyfriend, the love of my life. I was supposed to be engaged or married by now with possibly a baby or two. I was supposed to be an ultrasound technician at a hospital and debt-free! I was supposed to be living in a beautiful small house with my husband, a baby, and a couple dogs to complete our perfect family-to-be. None of that happened.
And then… I was supposed to be a lot of things when that dream failed. I was supposed to be an ultrasound technician, x-ray technician, veterinarian technician, and accountant. Eventually, I did finish college after changing my mind one too many times. I changed careers a lot since I found myself disappointed more than a handful of times with my past relationships or almost relationships.
What I am trying to say is… God will interrupt your plans. It doesn’t mean that he wants you to be unhappy. It doesn’t mean he didn’t want to see you married to the love of your life with a baby or have your dream career. It doesn’t mean that he didn’t want you to get accepted into your dream college or live in your perfect dream house. He knows what is best for you. He knows what you need to go through and what your tomorrow holds. If I have learned anything after high school, I have learned that God’s detours will lead you to the correct destination but it is your choice to be obedient during those detours. Your attitude during these detours is what is going to make or break who you are. It is your choice to be angry towards God as well as being thankful that things did not work out the way you hoped for. You may not understand the reasoning behind it and that is okay. It will be okay even if it doesn’t seem like it right now.
“The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.”
I don’t know if I will ever meet the right man for me, get married, and raise a family together. I hope for it every day but I know God is doing something in my life that was necessary before my dream happened. Perhaps, I will appreciate my hope and dreams later in life compared to taking it for granted now. I will always keep praying but even if it never happens then I know God has something different in mind for me.
“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”
Today, I may be twenty-six years old and without a ring on my finger but I am figuring out my life. I may not be where I want to be or living dreams that I planned years ago. I am focusing on my self-care and healing from my past and traumatic events. I am focusing on finishing graduate school and who I can help as a Christian life coach and counselor. I am focusing on praying even if my dreams never happen. This life is not what I expected but I will continue to dream until something changes.
Maybe you can relate to my story. Maybe you are waiting and hoping for a dream to happen. Maybe you planned your life a certain way and watched it fail. Maybe you feel discouraged about everything. I want to encourage you that I get it. My life has not happened the way that I hoped and I have struggled with feeling discouraged about it. I have struggled with being angry towards God. I have struggled with severe depression because of it. I may not understand why it never happened but I know God’s plans are better even if I can’t see what is up ahead. I want you to know that God knows what tomorrow has in store for your life. It may not be what you expected but sometimes, it turns out better than what you imagined.