I am going to be real and vulnerable… I am the foolish woman who gives her time to a man who does nothing to deserve it. I am that woman who lets her guard down because I fall in love with a man’s honey sweet words. I trust easily- too easily. I fail to guard the affections of my heart and become emotionally attached to the wrong people. Everyday, I am learning what it means to guard my own heart and it is definitely not easy.
“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your heart.” // Proverbs 4:23
The best way to guard our hearts is to abandon them to Jesus. You don’t want the full responsibility of guarding your heart on your own. Yes, you should know how to guard yourself, but with Christ by your side. If we take the full responsibility of guarding our heart on our own then we may lock them up so they can never feel love and compassion for others, or the pain from people whom Christ asks us to allow into our lives. We may become numb to everything. We become immune to everyone and everything around us. Guarding our hearts is not a method of defending ourselves from the possibility of being hurt. Maybe you are like me; do you guard your heart to control a situation in the midst of fear? This happens when we do not trust God enough.
The apostle Paul explains exactly what it looks like to guard our heart: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” // Philippians 4:6-7
Women cannot expect a man to take care of our heart when we do not know how to look after our own self. Guarding your heart begins with prayer. Prayer is the pathway to guard your heart and mind with the peace of God. Peace comes when you root your trust in God, expressed through the process of prayer. Guarding your heart is the result of clearly communicating to God through pain, vulnerability, joy, sadness, and the list continues. A great example is when a man talks to God about pursuing a woman before he talks to the woman about the relationship. But a man-of-God will seek to guard his heart and your heart whether he is pursuing you or not. He gives clear communication of what his intentions are. He will not lead you astray from God’s will.
Our hearts become unguarded when:
- We become anxious and want to rush God for our own desires.
- When we stop seeking God’s desires.
- We move too fast to begin a relationship without talking to God first. When we move too fast outside of God’s will, we tend to stir up emotions that should not be stirred. We tend to create an atmosphere where we may become vulnerable too quickly which causes women to drop their guard.
Waiting is to trust in God’s timing. It is practicing submission and humility to completely surrender to the Potter’s hands. It is through consistent prayer; laying face-down and allowing the Potter to mold you as He forms your other half, your man-of-God. The man-of-God that will protect your heart as if He was destined to do it. Waiting is a faith that believes wholeheartedly that everything will become beautiful in His perfect timing. It is a hope that is confident enough to believe in something that you cannot see. It is the ability to guard your own heart until God says, “You are well prepared for the next glorious chapter.”
“Guard your heart so disappointment doesn’t paralyze your pursuit of God.” // Micah Wood
Today, I challenge you to guard your heart by allowing yourself fully entrusting God with your fragile heart. Seek him daily! Pray consistently! And remember that guarding your heart can either paralyze you or it can liberate you! Let God guard your heart and allow yourself to be kept safe in the hands of the Lord by honoring His ways.
“Because she loves,” says the Lord, “I will rescue her; I will protect her, for she acknowledges my name.” // Psalms 91:14